Letters to the editor: American Education Week; A right to know the truth
TO THE EDITOR
President Trump has stated the American people have the right to know the truth on the JFK assassination. The Warren Commission said back then they told us the truth. I don't understand why the truth 50 years later is more important than the American people having the right to know the truth on current affairs now. Is the President saying there is a 50-year lag time to learn the truth?
The current administration is lawyering up, blaming everything on past administrations or screaming fake news. As investigations keep proceeding more and more administration employees are connected to Russia. Nothing has changed over the years. Follow the money.
What amazes me is the acceptance of these activities by the general public. The statement of "Everybody does it" seems to be an expectable practice. Past administrations, past campaign challengers, the list go on, are being accused of wrongdoing to divert attention.
Many years ago a very learned friend of mine told me I think too deep. He went on to say, "Politics is very cosmetic, if it quacks like a duck and looks like a duck, it's a duck, you don't have to look any further."
The art of diverting attention away from one problem only works as long as the diversion is more critical than the original problem. Currently original issues and diversions are running hand in hand while society waits to see which is worse.
As long as the stock market stays up everyone will just have to endure the chaos. It's all about the money, and that's the truth.
American Education Week
TO THE EDITOR
This week gives all of us the opportunity to celebrate education and honor those individuals who are ensuring that every child receives a quality education. Nov. 13-17 is American Education Week.
The Ellsworth Unit of the American Legion Auxiliary recognizes the special efforts of our school's faculty, staff and leaders who faithfully dedicate their lives to teaching, serving and mentoring our students. It is through their hard work, spirited teaching, and caring guidance that students achieve and are successful.
The American Legion and the American Legion Auxiliary offer Americanism and leadership opportunities for our children and youth. Some of these opportunities are the annual essay contest for students in grades 3-12, Badger Boys and Girls State for high school juniors, the annual Pierce County Government Day for middle school/senior high students, the annual oratorical contest for high school students, and many scholarships for which high school seniors can complete applications to assist with continuing education.
May each of us — educators, parents, mentors, and community leaders - create an atmosphere and love for lifetime learning which serves as a foundation for success for every individual.
Phyllis Beastrom, President
Ellsworth American Legion Auxiliary
Abusers continue to abuse victims
TO THE EDITOR
A study of over 1,500 abusers and hundreds of their victims shows that abusers fare better in psychological testing than the victims do. In a domestic relationship, the abuser is controlling, manipulative, feels he is entitled, is disrespectful, and has a unifying principle in his attitude of ownership.
Because of the distorted perceptions of the abuser, he thinks he's the victim and is very skilled at twisting his descriptions of events to make it look as though he is the victim. Abusers are typically charming and persuasive. Batterers can be on "good" behavior for extended periods of time when it benefits them. The problem is that abusers fool guardian ad litems and court officials.
The abuser commonly accuses the victim of having mental health problems. He is very comfortable lying after years of practice and can sound believable when making false statements. Courts tend to fail to look closely at the facts because of his charm. Because of trauma, the victim may seem disjointed which makes the evaluator think the victim is the source of the problems, It works to the abuser's advantage when the victim does not want communication between them which is the best thing for the victim and their children. There is no way for a victim to avoid criticism and suspicion and the abuser uses this to his advantage.
Studies have shown that 50 to 70 percent of men who use violence against their partners are physically abusive to their children as well. The abuse to the primary caretaker is a form of emotional abuse of the children in itself. A bigger danger is that children are particularly vulnerable psychologically because they are already scarred by violence that they have observed or experienced. If the abuser has a history of sexual assaults against the mother, there is an increased risk of sexual abuse of the children and increased physical danger.
The legal system needs to be informed on the ways abusers continue to abuse victims and their children. It's time we protect the victims and children instead of giving them visitation with the abuser.
TO THE EDITOR
Can you see us? Can you hear us? We are the silent casualties, the ones trying in vain to protect our children in the face of a system so hopeless and twisted that hope seems elusive.
We will die for our children, to give them one home, one stability, so they don't have to go back and forth between one parent and another, constantly wondering what way is up or down. You see, my child is hit by her father, and alcohol reigns supreme. I am only a possession, too worthless to do anything but serve the husband and master. And yet I stay.
Why? Because if I leave, as social services and the police advise, the court system will only place my child back in that dark home in the name of parental equality. But what about my child's right to live without fear? What about her little voice, her future? So I shut up and survive, because to talk about what goes on in that house will make me sound twisted, demented, and unstable.
I do not have proof of every verbal, emotional, and sexual assault that slowly kills your inner being until you are nothing more than a shell. But I must stay, for to leave is to place my child back in that home without me to protect her, to be a buffer from the worst of the hell.
Is there anyone to help? Is there anyone to hear? Is there anyone to see? Don't just offer words of condolence. Give us hope. Give us freedom. Give us a future. Or we won't be seen, for we truly are silent casualties. By the time help is there, it will be too late. Will you please see us Commissioners? Judges? Guardian ad Litems? We are desperate for hope.
F. and Mary York